Romance

Romance 1

"We have written so much and talk almost daily with people about God romance. One of the things that comes through so clearly is that many have never experienced true romance.



Romance can not be taught or understood. If we understand romance then we have never had it. If we demand romance from anyone then we have no idea what romance is. If we crave romance we have missed it. Romance just flows when we allow life itself to ignite us in undiscovered love. If romance needs anything sexual to survive then it is not romance.



We can never understand romance. It is a movement of God through His Holy Spirit to bring people together as an example of what He is to us and what church should be. It is in true romance one can never say his or her needs are not being met as there is no psychopathic tinge in romance. It is completely about the other person and at the same time is completely about me. Not as a conscious act but rather as a flow of love from within.



Romance gives no heed to consequences,time, location or action. Inside romance we feel invincible and truly the love found inside romance is invincible. If I see me in the relationship I do not have romance I have infatuation. Infatuation is a greedy self motivated lust of desire that will always gravitate to the sexual as any lust based relationship will. Romance blossoms its best without sexual areas being involved. Sexual action never enhances or brings romance. If sex is introduced at the wrong time it degenerates romance that may exist and eliminates the source of true romance. Notice I said at the wrong time. Romance draws together and marriage is designed to be the height of romance. Marriage, the bible says, causes the two to become one flesh. As marriage unifies as one, sexual union brings together to seal that union of intimacy. If romance is not allowed to mature into marriage then problems will ALWAYS occur. If sex is used in an attempt to bring union, it ultimately tears apart. Sex outside of true romance is always about self gratification at someone else s expense (and often works 2 ways). Is it any wonder sex is such a powerful tool of control and manipulation. In the wrong context it will bring guilt, fear, shame and self consciousness; everything that is the opposite to romance. 

Sex out of a romantic marriage union rapes an individual of romance and romantic abilities while providing a temporary (yet counterfeit) feeling of romance.
Romance can be easily allowed to turn into a labor of love; busy working for each other missing the fact romance needs to stay fertile. Life is so busy these days it seems almost acceptable to buy a card or flowers for a loved one, send a text message, post a facebook comment etc. These actions are not bad in and of themselves but severely handicap romance and provide a counterfeit feeling that replaces true romance. We get used to the counterfeit and will believe it is the real thing. However, many people (especially women) feel a deep down void of being unfulfilled. This void, always containing a lack of romance, is attempted to be filled by our actions and on a large scale with religion, another counterfeit.

This same labor of love we are touching on, is the same as our romantic relationship with God.As the bible talks about Jesus returning it says He is returning for His bride. That bride is not made up of denominations who have been separated from each other and God through knowledge (that causes division). That bride is united in a romantic movement (not religiosity). One day He will look and say I can’t bear to be away from this complete bride, come and be with Me. Jesus will not return for the motive to condemn and destroy. He came the bible says that we may have life abundantly. Nothing better than romance to feel alive.



Romance is still alive it just waits for us to enter. We don’t feel worthy we feel inadequate and have no idea what to do or how to respond.There is no correct way to respond to romance. To try and be romantic kills romance. Men who have no idea of true romance bring people in to churches every Sunday and give people knowledge of love and devoid of romance. In the book of Acts the "God romance" caused people to meet daily in each others homes. But can we teach romance? ABSOLUTLY NOT! If I teach romance all I have is Hollywood replacing romance with infatuation and lust. Romance begins by responding to the romantic wooing of God Himself towards you. Yes those wooing are there we just fail to see them as such. Yes true Holy Spirit inspired church is me being me. As I live romance sin drops from my life, struggles with this world disappear and LOVE is romantic, no longer a labor. Just be you and let Jesus love you by being with Him in thought deed and presence. Let God romance blossom around your life and watch life become true life.



God constantly is wooing us and we are oblivious to it. In church we turn the manifestations that are "wooings" into lust and infatuation to market God and miss the romance of the wooing. In life we all get gifts and the bible says every good gift comes down from above. Gifts in our life are God wooing us and how foolish we are when we turn these gifts into self righteous greed. Romance begins with God and is fulfilled in Him. Is it any wonder the attacks on marriage and relationships are so rampant. The world motivated by demonic culture wants to steal intimacy because inside intimacy is security and peace. The peace of God!



No matter what mistakes we have made, no matter if we have never had romance. I can assure you right now God has romanced you and when you respond to Him romantic natural life will follow. God is crazy about you just the way you are! Problem is we don’t see how that can ever be. Just relax talk to Jesus and let life BE! Quit trying, quit thinking that something you say or do can alter the passionate love that God has for you. As we learn to be still, our works cease, strife and stress ends, there is no longer an infatuation with being told or taught and knowledge is seen for what it is.

If this is allowed to bloom, romance springs alive, revealing the perfection that we are within, Christ in us the hope of glory."